"Hello Jennifer, I just want to tell you how happy I am that you and Oliver are making so much progress. Don't let the 'nay sayers' get you down, you're doing what works for you and Oliver...and being successful with…"
"I once owned a gelding that was a real problem when trying to catch him, out in the pasture AND in his pen; he'd never been abused was a really nice ride, just was a 'pill' to catch. All the Parelli catch game did was…"
"No problem, JMO, that's what a site like this is for. Supporting other horse owners/lovers without criticizing or confusing. We all are individuals as are our horses, what works for some, won't work for others. There are…"
"If I may express an opinion, and please remember...it's just my opinion. #1 Being 'tough' doesn't mean you are supposed to whack on him. It means you ask for and expect respect. Horses spell love, RESPECT, just…"
"Now don't be beating yourself up, you are trying with Oliver...and that's what really counts, you continue to try. Oliver being an orphan isn't your doing, if you'd had your way I'm sure you'd have wanted him to…"
"Ah Jennifer, I wish I could give you a hug right now. Each horse is an individual, and you need to do what works for you and your horse. I dare say you aren't going to become a 'predator' with your horse, you'll just…"
"Actually you having a more 'old fashioned' approach to horse training is exactly what I like. I get a little fed-up with all the 'new' techniques that keep popping up. I put a comment up when Ellen started the join up blog, I…"
"I may be the wrong person to ask as I am pretty old fashioned. I never did the join-up stuff. Consistent (same signal means the same thing), humane handling while listening to what the horse has to say (and apologizing any time I irritated/hurt the…"
"I really liked and completely agree with what you said concerning body language and how a horse's body language should be thought of as a paragraph, each signal considered in the context of that paragraph. Breaking each and every signal down…"
"Glad I could help. So many trainers say that a horse turning away his/her head is a sign of disrespect. Ellen has cleared up a lot of that train of thought here; so many of those 'disrespectful' actions are really just the calming signals,…"
"In general that's why this group was started, to identify some 'calming signals', that's the term Ellen uses for them. One of the calming signals she's mentioned is the lowering of the head to indicate, as I understand it,…"
"Just a quick question about the first physical exercise. Adjusting the weight by softening the arms, you're saying to relax the muscle in your arm...right? Not moving the arm forward to take the 'weight' away."
"At first the horse is curious when the jump is put out, and he does try to step over. Then, JMO, the horse seems to be a little confused and frustrated, maybe not understanding exactly what is wanted. I think he finds it entertaining to watch the…"
I may be the wrong person to ask as I am pretty old fashioned. I never did the join-up stuff. Consistent (same signal means the same thing), humane handling while listening to what the horse has to say (and apologizing any time I irritated/hurt the horse), that is what I used.
Since I never "joined up" with any of my horses and kept pretty good relations with all my riding horses, I doubt if you would need to repeat the join-up. I consider it a tool to be used sparingly.
Nowadays I would consider using clicker training first before trying join-up.